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It might seem like a lot of work, and it is probably a 10-30 minute investment to write a sample document, and a day's conversation on your staff mailing list. It's worth it to think about these before-hand.
== Kicking someone out of the group ==▼
A midwestern city's Python Workshop experienced a man coming to the workshop with the dubious situation of his daughter (who is younger than the age of▼
majority) being the main attendee, with him as the invited guest.▼
Eventually he was awkward and hugged and otherwise touched attendees▼
as if they had a reason to be hugging him, which some found weird, and▼
others found uncomfortable. The organizers discussed the issue on their private staff mailing list, concluded that his actions were problematic for a host of reasons, and concluded they wanted him to no longer attend their events.▼
Here is the email the organizers sent to him:▼
* [[/Asking someone to leave the group|Asking someone to leave]]▼
That story turned out very well, by the way. The person immediately▼
accepted his mistake, apologized profusely, seemed to feel quite▼
bad, and has not returned to the group.▼
Different circumstances might apply for a person who breaks the community▼
rules at your events, so the specific text might not apply. Keep thes things▼
in mind when writing it, and feel ''especially'' free to reach out to Asheesh▼
or other people who can help you write letters like this.▼
* Letters like this are ''way'' easier to write by someone who is not emotionally involved. So if you have been personally offended by the person who you need to ask to leave the group, try to get someone else to write it.▼
* You should '''be firm''' and focus on the fact that you don't want this person to come back, if that's accurate.▼
* It is best to have a written code of conduct before incidents like this happen, but it is okay to kick someone out of your group without a code of conduct.▼
* If you don't personally want the person to ever email you again, then it is '''okay to say that'''. If you can find a person for them to keep in touch with who is not emotionally involved in the situation (such as someone not even living in the same area of the world as you), that's cool. If not, don't worry about it.▼
* You are a volunteer focusing on outreach efforts, and this is a distraction and the sooner you can finish the task of asking the person to not be part of the group, the sooner you can get back to the real work you wanted to do.▼
* Describe things you observed, and how they made you feel.▼
* Link to your policy, if it exists, or if not, indicate that you plan to make one.▼
* Again, feel ''particularly encouraged'' to ask for help. Reach out! Asheesh and others are here to help you by helping draft this so you can get back to the work you'd probably rather be doing.▼
== Telling solo men they're not welcome to attend ==
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them. Or you can ask them to list the person who invited them in the
comments of their RSVP.
▲== Kicking someone out of the group ==
▲A midwestern city's Python Workshop experienced a man coming to the workshop with the dubious situation of his daughter (who is younger than the age of
▲majority) being the main attendee, with him as the invited guest.
▲Eventually he was awkward and hugged and otherwise touched attendees
▲as if they had a reason to be hugging him, which some found weird, and
▲others found uncomfortable. The organizers discussed the issue on their private staff mailing list, concluded that his actions were problematic for a host of reasons, and concluded they wanted him to no longer attend their events.
▲Here is the email the organizers sent to him:
▲* [[/Asking someone to leave the group|Asking someone to leave]]
▲That story turned out very well, by the way. The person immediately
▲accepted his mistake, apologized profusely, seemed to feel quite
▲bad, and has not returned to the group.
▲Different circumstances might apply for a person who breaks the community
▲rules at your events, so the specific text might not apply. Keep thes things
▲in mind when writing it, and feel ''especially'' free to reach out to Asheesh
▲or other people who can help you write letters like this.
▲* Letters like this are ''way'' easier to write by someone who is not emotionally involved. So if you have been personally offended by the person who you need to ask to leave the group, try to get someone else to write it.
▲* You should '''be firm''' and focus on the fact that you don't want this person to come back, if that's accurate.
▲* It is best to have a written code of conduct before incidents like this happen, but it is okay to kick someone out of your group without a code of conduct.
▲* If you don't personally want the person to ever email you again, then it is '''okay to say that'''. If you can find a person for them to keep in touch with who is not emotionally involved in the situation (such as someone not even living in the same area of the world as you), that's cool. If not, don't worry about it.
▲* You are a volunteer focusing on outreach efforts, and this is a distraction and the sooner you can finish the task of asking the person to not be part of the group, the sooner you can get back to the real work you wanted to do.
▲* Describe things you observed, and how they made you feel.
▲* Link to your policy, if it exists, or if not, indicate that you plan to make one.
▲* Again, feel ''particularly encouraged'' to ask for help. Reach out! Asheesh and others are here to help you by helping draft this so you can get back to the work you'd probably rather be doing.
== Other resources ==
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